The Real You vs. The Performed You: How to Tell the Difference
You know the version of you that shows up to please, to perform, to keep the peace. But who is the real you underneath it all?
Signs of the Performed You:
You say yes when you want to say no.
You avoid conflict at the expense of your truth.
You feel drained after social interactions.
Signs of the Real You:
Alignment between your words and your feelings.
Peace, even when others disagree.
Energy from living in your truth.
Reflection Prompt: Where in your life are you performing instead of living aligned with your truth?
Framework:
Identify where you are performing.
Clarify what you truly feel and want.
Practice speaking your truth, even in small ways.
Repeat until authenticity becomes your default.
Quote: “You will never feel fully alive if you’re living someone else’s story.” – Ando Niko
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